So you have decided that a traditional large wedding is not for you and your partner, and you want to celebrate your love for each other in the most intimate way. While this decision is undoubtedly a beautiful one, it can also be a challenging task to share this choice with family and friends who might not be invited to the celebration.
It may seem like the hardest part of making this decision is the thought of breaking it to loved ones, but don’t worry, we are here to help navigate the delicate art of sharing your small intimate wedding plans with friends and family.
Understanding Your Decision:
The first and most important thing you need to do is explain to them why you have decided to have a small intimate wedding. Was the decision about prioritizing intimacy? Was it to cut costs and reduce stress? Help your loved ones understand that this was a personal decision and not a reflection of the relationship you have.
Choosing the Right Time:
Timing is really important when sharing these plans. We recommend informing your loved ones as soon as possible so that they have time to process and understand your decision. The longer you wait to inform them, the closer you will get to the special day. The last thing you both need on your wedding day is bad feelings from loved ones.
Be Sensitive:
Although it should feel like your important decision should not make anyone upset or angry, understand your loved ones may be feeling left out and unwanted. It is really important to reassure them that their presence in your life is important to you both and this wedding day is just one part of the journey together.
Consider Live Streaming the Ceremony:
With technology these days live streaming is a great way to include guests near and far into your special day. Simply set up a tripod with a phone or a tablet attachment and record on any app that does live streaming like Zoom, Facebook, and Youtube. There are even platforms designed specifically for live-streaming weddings, such as Lovecast, Wedfuly, and Joy Live to use to live-stream your ceremony.
Host a Separate Celebration:
If your budget allows, consider hosting a separate celebration. This could be pre-wedding plans like an engagement party or a bridal shower, or even a larger gathering that is more low-key than a traditional wedding that is catered by a local restaurant or large chain.
Example of What to Say:
Here is a great example of how to approach the conversation with your loved ones. Remember to personalize it to best fit the individual you’re addressing.
“Hi (insert name).
First off we want to thank you so much for being a part of our lives. Your presence and support mean the world to us, and we cherish the special bond we share as (insert title).
As we approach our wedding day, we can’t help but feel overwhelmed with excitement and love. However, we’ve had to make some difficult decisions, and we wanted to be honest and open with you about it. Due to (insert reason for the decision), we’ve chosen to have a small and intimate wedding with only our closest family and friends.
It’s with a mix of emotions that we share this news, as we truly wish we could celebrate this day with all our loved ones, including you. Please understand that this decision doesn’t diminish the love and respect we have for you. Your place in our hearts remains as strong as ever, and we hope you can still share in our joy and happiness from afar.
Thank you for being a part of our journey and for making our lives richer with your friendship and love.”
Stay true to yourselves:
Above all else, remember that this is your special day and you have the right to celebrate your love in a way that is authentic to you and your partner. Try not to let guilt overshadow your happiness.
We truly hope these tips will provide you and your partner with the confidence to share your honest truth with loved ones. We firmly believe that with time, your cherished ones will come to understand and wholeheartedly support your decision to have a small intimate wedding.
If you’re planning a small intimate wedding, we would love to connect with you and discuss your wedding plans. Feel free to reach out and let’s chat!
